I’ve been in the adoption world for eight years now, with the past three of them spent interviewing families. Through this journey I’ve learned adoption is a gift.
Adoption is a gift of life to babies by birth parents. It’s a gift of parenthood to those who want to become parents. It’s a gift to children who are placed in forever homes.
Sometimes the gift of adoption goes beyond this and does something more.
During an interview with Brad Pearse, an adoptee from the Philippines, he shared he was adopted because his parents wanted another child, but found they couldn’t conceive.
Brad was abandoned at birth and almost died. His birth family brought him to the orphanage and left him outside in the grass. They loved him enough to take him there, but didn’t want to be seen. However, a security guard found this tiny three-pound baby and brought him inside. Brad’s life was saved and he was matched with a family in the United States.
Brad shares how he arrived in the United States at Christmas time in a real Christmas stocking! He was a wonderful gift to his adoptive parents and older brother, and grew up in a close family who loved each other very much.
What Brad’s father didn’t know was one day this child—given to him as a gift in a stocking—would one day give him a gift to save his life.
His story reminded me of my son who once said, “Mommy you needed me.” My son was right! I needed him and he needed us.
In Brad’s story, he needed his parents but he was also the very child they needed.
Brad’s father found out he had kidney cancer and it was clear he needed a kidney transplant. His biological son wasn’t a match so he asked Brad if he would get tested. Although it was a long shot that an adopted son from the Philippines would be a match, Brad was willing to try.
The tests came back—Brad was a match! He gave his adoptive father a kidney and saved his life. Who could have guessed how much they needed each other.
This story is so amazing. I could see destiny weaving everything together. They were meant to be family.
It doesn’t mean adoption isn’t painful or messy. It means the gift of adoption may be the very gift you need. It means that opening your heart to an adoption story could be the greatest thing you have ever done.
Brad was able to give his father something no one else could give. It’s a beautiful story that you must hear!